Public Play, Boundaries, and Respect in Public Spaces

This guide discusses boundaries in public chat — especially during play and teasing — and how we keep this space respectful, safe, and fun for everyone.

This is a kink-positive, teasing-friendly server, and public play is part of the dynamic. But not everyone enjoys or consents to the same kinds of interactions. To help things stay smooth and enjoyable for all, we’re introducing some guidance and a new rule around directed and non-directed messages in public chat.

🎯 Directed Public Messages

Sometimes, play gets personal. If you're directing a message to a specific person (e.g., headpats, teasing, orders), it's okay to assume playful intent — but you need to be respectful of the boundaries of those you interact with.

Principle 1:

If someone responds to a directed message with a clear boundary — for example:

"Boundary: Only my keyholder can headpat me"

This boundary must be taken seriously, respected immediately, and not repeated. Keep in mind that others may not have seen your boundary post — if a new person causes discomfort, simply repeat your boundary safeword message for clarity.

Principle 2:

If that boundary is crossed again, the recipient should open a modmail ticket so the mod team can assist.

Principle 3:

Only the person who received the message should raise a modmail ticket. Others should avoid escalating on their behalf — it's important to respect agency and avoid dogpiling.

🗣️ Non-Directed Public Messages

Not every conversation in public chat will be for everyone. With a wide range of kinks and dynamics in our community, it’s natural that some topics might not resonate with you — and that’s okay. We welcome diverse expression, as long as it doesn’t distract too much from our core focus on Chaster and chastity-related themes.

Principle 4:

If a general discussion makes you uncomfortable, keep in mind that public rooms include a wide range of topics and expressions. We don’t moderate based on individual discomfort or personal preference unless the content clearly violates server rules or the law. If something doesn’t work for you, you can:

• Mute the channel temporarily
• Block the poster
• Take a break and check back in later

Principle 5:

Moderators may occasionally step in if a topic becomes distracting. In those cases, a mod may politely ask participants to “move it along.” This isn’t personal — it’s just about keeping the space aligned with the server’s primary goal of supporting Chaster. If you’d like to continue the discussion, please create a thread and carry on there.

⚖️ New Rule

2.3. Directed Public Play. Respect boundaries when engaging in public play.

• If you mistakenly engage someone in directed public play and they advise of a boundary, apologise and avoid future mistakes.
• If someone inadvertently engages in unwelcome public play, let them know by calling out your boundary respectfully without public escalation.
• Boundaries should be advised by posting "Boundary: Only my keyholder can headpat me". The keyword “Boundary” will be treated as a safeword for directed public interaction.

Let’s keep it fun. Public play is part of the magic — but only when everyone involved feels safe and respected. ❤️

If you have any questions, feel free to reach out via modmail.

Updated on: 08/12/2025